Is It True? Is It Kind?

By Stephanie McComb

I had the coolest experience in the nail salon one morning.

I was just sitting there getting my nails done, zoning out, when a conversation began to filter into my awareness. I tracked where the voice was coming from and discovered it belonged to an older woman, getting a pedicure, who was talking on her cell phone. What captured my attention was that she started talking about “speaking bubbles” and “thought” bubbles. Yes, I admit it, I was eavesdropping but then again, she was talking loud enough for me to hear without straining.

Just from listening to her end of the conversation I could tell she was either an educator or a therapist that worked with children and the person on the other end of the line was a parent who was distressed about her child’s behavior. So this is pretty much the advice I heard the woman getting the pedicure give:

Tell him to picture a speaking bubble near his mouth and a thought bubble over his head. Encourage him to see the thought he is thinking in the thought bubble and ask himself these two questions:

1) Is what I’m thinking true?
2) Is what I’m thinking kind?

If he can answer “yes” to both these questions then he can take the thought from his thought bubble and put it in his speaking bubble and go ahead and say it. Now, if he tells you he doesn’t know if what he’s thinking is true or kind, tell him to ask himself this question, “How would I feel if someone said it to me?”

I loved it! She had just preached Philippians 4:8, Colossians 4:6 and Luke 6:31 all rolled into one!

Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”

Colossians 4:6 “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.”

Luke 6:31 “And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise.”

She had taken those scriptures and simplified them with her word pictures and not only helped the mom, the little boy but me as well. It reminded me that I need to weigh my thoughts and when I do I’ll find some things are better left unsaid.

I wanted to go up to her afterwards and give her a “high five” and tell her how much she had blessed me but then that would have been an admission of eavesdropping which I was too chicken to do. So…my thanks to the lady getting the pedicure!

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